Its like living a double life, and I am stuck in the middle, in a three way puzzle that will forever be connected together no matter if one puzzle piece is lost and don't fit anymore.
I have my new wife on one hand, my children in the middle, and my ex wife or baby's mom on the other end. all tugging and pulling at me in all different directions,, I have one women who will not move on, even after she has been married several time, and still refuse to give up my name like it was her maiden name that she was born with.even though we have been divorce, decades ago, i have a baby mom from my past that refuse to live in the hear and now, and still argue with me about what happen between us as to why we broke up and i have moved on and refuse to entertain the past, and we are in the here and now and the present.
There our men that our deadbeat dad, shiftless no good, accounting for men, but they are also men, that stand up, take responsibility for the actions, and are stand up individuals that don't mind taking care of there
children, even to the point of taking them into your new life and marriage, when there mother cant do it at this moment in time. I love my kids, I will die for my kids, my kids our my legacy when i am long and gone,
I want my footprints, to pave the way for my sons to love there wife as god love him, and love his wife like he loves himself because no man hates himself, and my daughters to be up stand women, living in harmony and having god cover there bond of union in marriage, to respect there husbands and he respect her loving her as the weaker vessel and loving her as he loves himself.
some men even, feel scorned and hurt as a women may feel and go out of there way to ruin the relationship and happiness they enjoy with the new man that they have, while being pissed to see the joy on her face and laughter that she once had with you, and that glow in her eyes, dancing in the moonlight, knowing that love and beauty is no-longer entertaining me anymore.
but the man I am I try my best to co-parent in the most positive way especially being married for 18 years or more, and the kids are now grown with there own family and children, and you may have a bad relationship with one or more of your children because they still cant get over the fact that you and there mother are not together anymore, even years down the line and they have there own families.
but it all comes down to putting GOD in your life and making things work, for the children sake, for the whole family for the long run and the short run, because even though you may have only ties with your children now, and the children has aunts and uncles that they still deal with, but let keep it at that, and be happy that , we all can get along for the children sake, because kids see and emulated everything they parents my do like that game you buy as a kid, see and say, and they pull the cord and were ever the arrow lands on the repeat that habit, but if you have a good god fearing household. and when you pray as a family the outcome of the game you play in life will be a very happy beneficial one, to the point when the children get grown and start there own family, and then there legacy's will began and how you will know that you and the women in your life past and present did a great job is when there is harmony in peace in that household and it is expressed in the love your grandchildren have for you.
so as the man of the household, and the father of children, giving the ex-wife and the children mother do respect if we all play our pivotal roles and co-parent responsible,
the children will stand up and say, i love and respect my father, i love and respect my mother, and i love and respect my stepmother because they all played a major part in my life,
and you wont see the repeated talk show of show, upon shows, of parents fighting on national tv, kids not knowing who there father really is, or how can i gain a relationship with my father, bec my mom said my dad never wanted, me he takes care of my brothers and sister in his new family, or your children demeaning the themselves to get your attention, by climbing up and down a pole, doing things to get that fatherly or motherly attention they feel as a kid that's lacking .
so lets end this cycle of he me and she what we going to do baby, end in a positive way upholding the father as head of the household children no matter what household your in at this time,even if your mother have a new life respect her new head as the head of there household giving respect in a way, while staying in a child's place.
so to all the fathers of the world, stand up like the true kings that you are leaving a legacy for your sons to carry in a positive way, saying yes that's my dad no matter what or who he was with he always made sure his children was taking care of and not lacking for anything,
like the bible says fathers do not be irritating your children, but show them the love and stability of a GOD fearing household so no matter if the kids are with the mother there fine, or with the dad everything is fine.. because to co-parent in a way that the lord above is holding each puzzle peace and being blessed that his holy spirit is holding each dot to dot puzzle connecting each family to join one another in a circle of co-parenting were the children only see love,and love is the true connection that will keep this union because that's what it is a family a union the bonds all party's together rather they like it or not so they might as well just get along. i am man a father and a husband from a male point of view
answer to the 4 part series stepmother follow by, when a women fed up
by helen burnett-davis
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